Old Age

19 Oct, 2026

2026. Cataract surgery currently prevents me from blogging. I must once again pause my writing, where I share journal memories from earlier years, to explain why I have been so quiet. I had hoped to continue my blog-journal this week, but for now, I can't because of a cataract operation.

14 Sep, 2026

We survived COVID when we left Paradise to move closer to the hospital when Daniel's health started deteriorating.

18 Aug, 2026

My mother was never happy in the care facility. Years later, looking back, I realised that she had never really been happy anywhere after the day my father died and she had to pack up and leave their flat. She had only ever been happy when she and my father were together.

5 Aug, 2026

It was not an easy decision to put my mother at a care facility for the aged, and she always blamed Daniel for ‘kicking her out of my home’. Partly that was true. My mother herself made the whole family, including Daniel, uncomfortable.

28 Jul, 2026

We used to enjoy relaxing and de-stressing on the weekends and we tried to involve the two new members of the family. Exhaustion and caregiver stress derailed our efforts to learn to live together as a family. I barely noticed how close I was to breaking point myself.

21 Jul, 2026

2007 was not an easy year. When my elderly mother moved into our already overcrowded house, each family member had to adjust to the uncomfortable reality of living with an elderly parent. First, we had to move and rearrange rooms in the house we had initially planned for three family members.

14 Jul, 2026

The peace in our home was already fragile when my mother came to live with me. What followed was a quiet unravelling shaped by differences related to faith, distance, and long-held resentments. Sharing a home forced those differences into the open and pushed me to draw boundaries I had long avoided.

14 Apr, 2026

On my mom's ninety-sixth birthday, a quiet nursing home visit reveals the painful truth of loss beyond death, when memory fades, identity dissolves, and love must endure the slow disappearance of someone still alive.